We've been hearing a lot of "uh-oh" again. Last night I was up for a while during the wee small hours, and heard Joy speak a big loud "UH-OH" from her bed, followed by a manic giggle. And then silence...
There are a lot more attempts and variations with the "more" sign recently. One particularly charming variation is to grab the hands of whatever adult
Joy loves to stim on hair-combs, and now that she's got enough hair to actually comb again, we've been trying to get her to actually use the comb a little bit. And, wonder of wonders, she's actually occasionally bringing the comb to her head and swiping a bit, with encouragement!
Joy is five years and four months old.
Joy's seven-year-old sister Rose was saying "uh-oh" at 8 months.
She was starting to use the "more" sign at 10 months.
And there was a startling moment at 10 months where I, on a whim and not having tried to teach her at all, handed Rose a hairbrush and asked her, "What do we do with this?" She responded by bringing it to her hair. I was amazed at how she'd simply picked that up... amazed at the course of human development... amazed that I'd not had to explicitly teach her at all.
Such a different trajectory. It's almost like there's no comparison.
As if it's helpful to compare. I don't do it all that often. We haven't been forced into it lately by any of those assessments that slap a time frame ("operating at the level of an X-month-old") onto Joy's achievements, or lack thereof.
I try to blog "in the moment." If I'd cut off this post before the "she's five years and four months old" line, it would fit that framework nicely.
I'm learning about developmental screening tools now, though. And getting a bit of review of "typical" development. And how our kids get put into the boxes that get them the help they need, by getting compared against the norm as best the experts know it.
Also, it's not fair to Rose to try to forget about her achievements and how we rejoiced in all the things she could do, so early, so very early on.
It's a balancing act, spinning plates aside.
How does one get to "beyond compare"?