You heard it here first! :-)
I haven't talked about potty issues much lately because there's been nothing to report. (Unlike various fellow-bloggers who seem to be on a gas-passing roll lately...)
At age five-and-a-half, Joy's still in MA-funded diapers, and though she's had several little strings of potty-pee successes over the past few years, basically there's been little movement on the whole toilet-training issue here (heh, heh -- "movement"!) For what seems like forever, I've been sitting Joy on the toilet, with a seat-insert so she can balance more easily, before evening bath. She's been fairly willing to sit on the pot and play with a board book together for a couple of minutes, but rarely produces.
Something interesting has been happening lately, though. In the past week or so, she's been waking up dry in the morning, more often than not. We've also been seeing some incredible diaper-leaks during the day, veritable waterfalls.
I think she's learning to "hold it." I think she probably also likes the sensation of "holding it," little sensory-seeker that she is.
Tuesday morning she woke dry, I tried a toilet attempt but she let loose between diaper-removal and actually getting onto the pot. Wednesday morning she woke dry, we tried the potty thing, she sat for a while without producing and we put the diaper back on (still hadn't peed by the time we got to daycare). This morning she woke dry, sat on the pot for a while, and then let the waterfall commence appropriately!! Woohoo!!!
So now what?
I've been rather avoiding the whole toilet-training issue, seeing as how life has been plenty full on its own. The Google results on autism & toilet training are pretty depressing, all sorts of stuff about spending hours and hours in the bathroom (like Joy would be willing, let alone me having that time to spend in the first place), or ABA incrementalism regarding "first you get your child to be willing to go through the bathroom door, then s/he needs to be able to remain in the bathroom for five seconds..." etc., which is obviously not where we are.
There have been several obstacles to toilet training as far as Joy is concerned. First is that she's not much of an imitator, so having a potty-competent big sister isn't all that helpful. Second is that she doesn't seem particularly aware of having a full diaper, either wet or messy (probably likes the sensation, if anything.) A big third thing is her communication delays.
Is there any chance that if we view this pee-holding as a new threshold of maturity, and push fluids and take her to toilet-sit fairly often to increase chance of success... that we'd actually end up with a potty-training trajectory? Or should we just add the morning potty-sit to the bathtime potty-sit rather than making a big push right now (heh, heh -- "push!")? Or do we need to plan for some fancy autism-specific training regimen?
Thoughts, dear been-there-done-that readers?